What Actually Changes When We Work Together?
I’m a stress and happiness coach, and I am all about creating a TOOLKit for everyone. So really; what are these ‘tools’ that I keep talking about?
If you’ve ever wondered what really happens in my 1:1 coaching…and what actually changes in your day-to-day life—this is for you.
Sometimes people sign up for coaching because everything is falling apart, and they need to change things to get out of it. Other times, they call me because something inside them knows: There has to be a better way to live. A calmer way. A more energized, more joyful, more intentional way.
Whatever is going on, your “knowing” that you need a change for the better is the start!
Then I help by giving you structure for change in the right direction and tools that create a better life and shorten the time it takes to transform. I also focus on compassionate support, weekly accountability, and creating momentum - because progress = happiness!
Here are some of the exact tools that I may use. (Remember that I create an individualized road map for every client, so tools may vary. But regardless, these tools begin shifting your life in weeks, not years!) I’ve learned them from 50+ years of stress and a lot of studying!
1. Healthier Habits That Support the Life You Want
Real change isn’t about willpower; it’s about redesigning the invisible systems that shape your day.
Together we build simple, repeatable habits…morning rhythms, sleep routines, movement practices, and emotional reset tools — that stack in your favor.
Why it works: Research from James Clear and BJ Fogg shows that small habits done consistently change your identity, not just your behavior. When you keep a promise to yourself, your confidence and energy rise.
2. Thought Patterns That Don’t Sabotage You
Most people live at the mercy of old thought loops…worrying, catastrophizing, people-pleasing, perfectionism, self-doubt.
In coaching, we slow everything down and get curious:
What’s the story your brain is telling you?
Is it true—or is it an old pattern trying to keep you safe?
What would a wiser, calmer part of you say instead?
You learn to recognize your saboteur patterns and strengthen your thinking, which leads to clearer thinking, better boundaries, and less stress.
Why it works: Neuroscience shows that naming a thought reduces its emotional charge. When you shift your mental habits, your nervous system shifts too.
3. Routines That Serve You (Instead of Exhaust You)
Your routines either drain you or regulate you.
We build routines that calm your nervous system rather than push it into exhaustion:
Micro-breaks
Grounding techniques
Alpha-wave morning practices
Time-blocking for sanity
End-of-day rituals that actually close the stress cycle
You start feeling less reactive, more intentional, and more in control of your energy.
4. Calming Techniques for Real-Time Stress Relief
This is where most clients have their biggest “aha.”
You learn tools that soothe your nervous system in minutes:
Breathwork
Orientation techniques
PQ reps (neural “reps” that strengthen calm)
Mindfulness without the pressure of “meditating perfectly”
Somatic grounding to move stress out of your body
Why it works: When your nervous system calms, your thinking becomes clearer and your emotional resilience skyrockets.
5. Healthy Coping That Doesn’t Involve Overthinking, Overworking, or Over-scrolling
We explore the things you turn to when life feels like too much…numbing, fixing, pleasing, controlling, ruminating — and we replace them with tools that actually support you:
Regulation over rumination
Rest over forcing
Self-compassion over self-criticism
Processing emotions instead of stuffing them
You learn what to do with stress in the moment, not after you’ve hit your limit.
6. Strong, Loving Boundaries
You learn to:
Identify where your boundaries are leaking
Set clear, kind limits
Hold them without guilt
Navigate pushback with calm confidence
We use frameworks like the “Let Them Theory” and nervous-system-aware boundary setting so you can care without over-functioning.
This is where clients feel their power come back.
7. A Kinder, More Compassionate Inner Voice
This might be the most life-changing tool of all.
Most people speak to themselves in a tone they would never use on someone they love.
In coaching, we rewrite that voice. We create:
An inner coach instead of an inner critic
A warm narrator instead of a panicked one
A supportive voice that helps you respond instead of react
Self-compassion is not fluff…research shows it improves motivation, resilience, and emotional well-being far more than self-criticism ever will.
So What Actually Changes?
Here’s what clients tell me again and again:
“I feel calmer.”
“I don’t spiral anymore. I don’t hate myself anymore.”
“I make decisions from clarity, not fear.”
“I actually enjoy my life again. I am smiling (authentically) for the first time in years.”
“I don’t abandon myself anymore by morphing into what others want of me.”
“My habits are solid and sustainable.”
“I feel like myself for the first time in years.”
Because when your habits, thoughts, routines, boundaries, and inner voice change, everything changes. I pick the exact tools needed, teach you them, help you apply them to your life in a sustainable way, and guide you along the way.
Coaching gives you the tools to shift how you think, how you feel, how you cope, how you show up, and ultimately…how much joy you experience in your daily life.
If you read this and thought: I need these tools, or I’m ready for that kind of change, we should talk.
Your next chapter doesn’t require a reinvention. Just a set of tools…and someone to help you use them well.